Friday, 10 February 2012

Women Politics

Hey ramblers,

Hope you are all well. Whoever and wherever you are. LoL.

I have an interesting topic today. Women politics. A couple of months ago, an acquaintance of mine put up a status stating that she was shocked at the dirty politics, some women were playing at. To which I asked her if everything was okay and what happened. The reply I got was that, nothing much, some women play very dirty politics which shocked her. Okay I got that. So I just said that thank God I never had a chance to face such an issue with women or men. Just a statement thanking God. Now this lady knows I don't work anywhere. So she simply replied that you will only face it when you do a job.

Now the question from this arises is... Really? I mean really that is the best answer she could come up with? That I would only face such an issue if I do a job. That sounded more like a jab at my staying at home and not working. But I may be wrong and her intentions might be clear but then again... Really? *raising an eyebrow*

What I initially thought to her statement was maybe some friend was playing dirty politics or maybe someone in the in-laws. And that is exactly what I meant when I made the statement of thanking God. I have heard other people complaining too and at times in school and college life about dirty politics. Because in my limited experience, we only find dirty politics is if someone we trusted or least expect from, does it. I am not saying that I have not experienced it at all but never an outright vicious attack like the one she was implying in her status. Many of you might disagree but for arguments sake, are you really saying that not one of you has faced this problem apart from a work place? This goes for men and women both though the focus at the moment is women politics.

It is funny though. I know we women can be very bitchy and can play very dirty. Even worse then men. But hey, in this career driven men's ambitious world, we have to make use of all the weapons we can and some do it more then the others. ;) In private life though its a different story. How many of you have come across games and dirty politics with some one in your in-laws or very close family? How many of you were a victim of these same politics in school and college life? How did you get to overcome it?

I would love to hear your opinion and maybe by mutual sharing we can also come with new ideas to avoid it or overcome it in our personal lives. For the time being am allowing anonymous comments in case you want to tell the story without giving up your name. ;)

Take care ya all!
C'est la vie

Tuesday, 7 February 2012

Domestic Engineer

Hello fellow ramblers,

This blog is not a teaching lesson. Its just me random rambling about everything and nothing. And since I may twist the words to my convenience, it may sound non-sense and totally change the meaning of the word but still its my head, my world and my non-sense. You will not only find ramblings in my topics but in the text itself too. ;)

For my very first post I would like to talk about "what is a domestic engineer?" and why I chose to start the ramblings.

Usually after we get married (we as in girls/women), we are given an option of either being a stay-at-home wife in other words a house-wife or become a working lady i.e. continue building your career if you have one or start one. That is either dependent on us or our in-laws.

In present times, I agree that since the price and cost of living is very high all around the world. It is difficult for a lower or middle class families to solely survive on the man's income, but if its not necessary and so far we can make-do with that income only and survive, choosing to stay home with college education is becoming a social stigma. At least here in Pakistan. I can not say it for any other country or individual. Just my personal experience in my 4 years of marriage.

People ask me what have I done (i.e. education) and then they ask me what am I doing nowadays (i.e. after marriage) and then they find it totally inconceivable that I am a stay at home wife without kids! I mean fine I am staying at home 24/7, may it be out of necessity or choice but its none of their business. I am choosing to stay at home and make my house a comfortable place to stay in for my family but that does not mean it hasn't got its perks and handicaps. The correct term for a stay at-home wife (or house wife) should be a domestic engineer. We have to run the house, make things comfortable for everyone and that they run smoothly. When the kids come along they're the part of the package too. I can not see a husband making a house very comfortable along with doing a job or the in-laws doing as much for the kids and our home as we would.

Though when asked, I don't say any of this to the people because it is pretty much pointless wasting my energy and strength arguing animatedly with them when they're stuck to their opinions and I am to mine (plus it creates an uncomfortable atmosphere with people we have to interact with a lot therefore better to avoid). I know I know many of you would also disagree with my sentiments but as its my ramblings, I have the right to speak up if not verbally then through writing.

These questions, life at home etc has brought me to a boiling point at the tip of frustration and desperation therefore I had to start a blog to let it all out and here I am. Please bear with me and my randomness. 

Okay.. For my first post that was enough non-sense.. I wouldn't mind hearing opinions are long as they are not abusive..

Hope to hear from at least some of you.. Hehehehe..
Lets See.

Take Care
Ah Bientot`!!